Sometimes we are not perfect. I had such an experience recently. I was, together with my partner, playing in a tennis tournament. Due to time constraint they changed the rules a bit. Our opponents called a few times our shots, which were clearly in, out. Meaning, instead of us getting the point, they got the point. We lost 6:7.
As our team mates asked us about the match I blamed the changed rules and the bad calls of our opponents for our defeat. In other words, I was pushing away the responsibility. I conveniently forgot to mention that we were actually leading 5:2 at some stage. If you are good enough to lead 5:2 you should be good enough to win the match.
So, a good lesson re-learned.
When on the job, focus on your abilities to get the job done. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted by some obstacle, however unpleasant or unfair.
When not able to get the job done, stop blaming all the obstacles in your way. Recognize that, like in my case, when fully focusing on the job we could have completed the job despite the obstacles. Otherwise, work on the skills required that you will be able to handle the job better in future.
If you failed, don’t complain & blame the circumstances. Most people see through this and may have less confidence in you later.
That’s why, after my match, I went home fairly quickly. I couldn’t help being upset. I felt strongly to talk about the injustice. And that would have made me bad company and also creating a bad impression about myself.
When somebody asked me the following day about our match, I said the right thing: ‘We were leading 5:2. We were mentally not strong enough to carry it through.’
And, I went back to our previous opponents and apologized for my foul mood yesterday on the court which they graciously accepted. That is another ‘100%- decision’ (see separate entry in this blog) which I made. When I did something wrong or made a fool of myself I apologize.
As our team mates asked us about the match I blamed the changed rules and the bad calls of our opponents for our defeat. In other words, I was pushing away the responsibility. I conveniently forgot to mention that we were actually leading 5:2 at some stage. If you are good enough to lead 5:2 you should be good enough to win the match.
So, a good lesson re-learned.
When on the job, focus on your abilities to get the job done. Don’t allow yourself to get distracted by some obstacle, however unpleasant or unfair.
When not able to get the job done, stop blaming all the obstacles in your way. Recognize that, like in my case, when fully focusing on the job we could have completed the job despite the obstacles. Otherwise, work on the skills required that you will be able to handle the job better in future.
If you failed, don’t complain & blame the circumstances. Most people see through this and may have less confidence in you later.
That’s why, after my match, I went home fairly quickly. I couldn’t help being upset. I felt strongly to talk about the injustice. And that would have made me bad company and also creating a bad impression about myself.
When somebody asked me the following day about our match, I said the right thing: ‘We were leading 5:2. We were mentally not strong enough to carry it through.’
And, I went back to our previous opponents and apologized for my foul mood yesterday on the court which they graciously accepted. That is another ‘100%- decision’ (see separate entry in this blog) which I made. When I did something wrong or made a fool of myself I apologize.
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