Did you ever think why exactly you do like a particular person or not? In my group of friends, two people jump into my mind. I like them for a remarkable simple reason.
There is one person. She never says anything negative about another person. Even when people around her indulge in juicy gossips, she stays above the line, never making any sarcastic, demeaning comment, never, ever.
The other person seems genuinely happy to see me again. Always a big smile, friendly welcoming words, sometimes a compliment. I just find it striking how such gestures have such a powerful impact and make me liking this person.
What is my point here? Both ‘actions’ are copyable. It is great start to building a relationship
There is one person. She never says anything negative about another person. Even when people around her indulge in juicy gossips, she stays above the line, never making any sarcastic, demeaning comment, never, ever.
The other person seems genuinely happy to see me again. Always a big smile, friendly welcoming words, sometimes a compliment. I just find it striking how such gestures have such a powerful impact and make me liking this person.
What is my point here? Both ‘actions’ are copyable. It is great start to building a relationship
- Never make sarcastic, demeaning comments about others
- Make people feel welcome when meeting them, say with a smile on your face: "So nice to
see you again."
Related to the sarcastic and demeaning comments let me share something with you which is known in sociology as ‘Dutch Admiral’s Paradigm’. And you can try this out at work.
Two young cadets in the Dutch Navy agreed to only talk well about each other. Whenever they had an opportunity to talk about their fellow cadet, they talked very well of each other. Both of them ended up to be the youngest admirals in the Dutch Navy. Coincidence? A lot of social scientists don’t think so. Being respected and appreciated by colleagues is a career booster. By the way, gossiping is certainly not a career booster.
Related to the sarcastic and demeaning comments let me share something with you which is known in sociology as ‘Dutch Admiral’s Paradigm’. And you can try this out at work.
Two young cadets in the Dutch Navy agreed to only talk well about each other. Whenever they had an opportunity to talk about their fellow cadet, they talked very well of each other. Both of them ended up to be the youngest admirals in the Dutch Navy. Coincidence? A lot of social scientists don’t think so. Being respected and appreciated by colleagues is a career booster. By the way, gossiping is certainly not a career booster.
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