Making Decisions

Very often, when there is a need for a decision I am finding myself pulled between two extremes, e.g. should I be firm or flexible, focus my daily activities or short-term of long-term results, or at work give preference to maximising profit or customer satisfaction. The correct answer is rarely at one of the extreme positions and, most of the time, 'somewhere in between'.

A good approach is to look at one of the extreme positions and write down the advantages, disadvantages, and thoughts. Then look at the other extreme position and do the same. Then analyse your notes. You will find it easier make a balanced decision. Your final decision may still have a downside. Think how this could be managed.

Example: Should my priority be to take care of my own interests or take care of my family

Take care of myself

Advantages

- can do more sports which I like and is healthy

- more time for reading, which I like and is educational

- bonding with my friends, who often turn out to become customers

Disadvantages

- spend less time with my loved ones

- feel guilty

- family may feel neglected

Thoughts

As I am writing this down I realize that taking care of my family is my prime objective, however, there are just a few things which I do prefer to do on my own or with my buddies.

Take care of my family

Advantages

- family feels taken care of

- more bonding with family

- good fun, fulfilling my duty

Disadvantages

- miss my sports, which may have an impact on my health

- miss my reading, which will have an impact on professional knowledge

- miss camaraderie with my friends

Thoughts

Of course, I could do sports together with my wife, but I would be horrified to e.g. play tennis with her. She is such a bad player and there is a good chance that I would lose my temper.

Then I notice that my family members do also have their own activities which they love to do, but I would hate doing those. Maybe, they also want to have their own 'space' and don't want me to meddle in these things.

Balanced Decision

I will use a decent share of my time to pursue my own activities, like sports and reading. I will not feel guilty about this. As a result I will be healthier, in a better mood and can even do a better job in taking care of my family. Of course, I need to respect any family member who desire their own space as well.